The 40 Day Challenge: Day 1

It’s Day 1 of Overcome Porn: The 40 Day Challenge. Let’s get started!

Today we will talk about why it’s important to invite a friend or mentor to encourage you though this journey. This person will be your ally (often referred to as an accountability partner).

Don’t think of an ally as merely someone to whom you confess your faults and weaknesses. Think of an ally as someone who is there to remind you of the person you want to be.

Ideally, this should be someone who also receives your Covenant Eyes Accountability Reports. Using Covenant Eyes as a tool to support your accountability relationship will help to remove any secret online habits from your life, taking them out of the darkness and into the light.

Action Step

Read this brief article to learn how an ally helps, and their three key responsibilities in helping you recover.

Even if you already have a Covenant Eyes ally, you may want to consider other potential allies who could come alongside you to encourage you.

Don’t forget to fill out your journal and answer your reflection questions! You’ll find them at the end of the article.

Day 1: Why You Need an Ally

In 20 years of helping people break free from pornography, Covenant Eyes has found one key factor to lasting freedom: having an ally to help you on your journey. This person is not the “porn police,” trying to catch you and punish you when you fail. They’re more like a coach or mentor, helping you identify areas where you struggle and encouraging you to keep pushing.

Why does this work? Because pornography thrives in secrecy. Removing the secrecy and shame is a key part of the recovery process. Allies help neutralize the shame by being safe and trusted people who don’t walk away when you stumble.

The best allies do three key things: they affirm, ask, and help you achieve.

  • They affirm that they are here to help you through this process. They aren’t there to be a judge; they are there to be a friend.
  • They ask questions about what they saw on your report. They ask what you were experiencing at that time. What triggered it?
  • They help you achieve your goals by helping you set action steps to move forward.

You don’t need to use Covenant Eyes to have someone acting as an ally for you; just start scheduling regular conversations with a friend, or join a recovery group However, using Covenant Eyes Screen Accountability will provide better information for your ally. He or she will receive your reports, highlighting areas where you’ve struggled, and will also receive free email-based training. If you don’t already use Covenant Eyes, you can sign up here.

And if you already have an ally, that’s great! In your next meeting, take some time to talk to that person about how you think things are going.

Today’s Reflections:

  • If you don’t have an ally, who do you think might be a good fit? Why?
  • If you have an ally, how is that person doing? How are they really helping you? How could the relationship improve?


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